from the Rising Sun EFT Group Newsletter, August 29, 2009

This is a fascinating article from Anita Colucci of Italy. It is a beautiful example of how combining EFT with the imagination (visualization) can be so very effective. Thanks so much for sharing this, Anita.

VISUALIZATION BRINGS THE SWEET SMELL OF SUCCESS

Italian EFT practitioner Anita Colucci describes how a client combined EFT with a strong visualisation of sunflower scent and avoided a surgical procedure.

by Anita Colucci, info@eftitaly.it

One day the client, Anna, came to me very scared and almost in tears. Her left nostril was noticeably closed as it had been for months. She had adhesions to the bone of the nose and the air could not go through.

The doctor had just informed her that in order to re-establish correct breathing she had to be operated on very soon.

Anna was terrified.

We immediately started a tapping session with visualisation.

I asked the name of her favourite flower and told her to try to see it by imaging of full-throated smelling it and repeat:

“I feel the smell…I can smell it all the way…the smell comes into my lungs…I can feel the smell coming up my nose…”

Since we only had 20 minutes, I told her to repeat this exercise at home 3-4 times a day.

The following day, Anna informed me that a drop of blood had painlessly come out from her nose.

Anna continued to repeat the exercise for a week before meeting with me again. The nostril was noticeably open and she could breathe almost completely.

After a few days, everything was back to normal!

We went to see her doctor together to show him the *miracle* achieved through EFT…the surgery was no longer necessary!

I learned afterward that the flower chosen by Anna was the sunflower. When she realised that this flower in reality has a very bad smell, it was already all over!

Later still Anna told me that her left nostril had started to close with the beginning of disagreements regarding the moral behaviour of a woman in her family…(something smells fishy…)

Perhaps Anna wanted to smell it no more…

In response, Anna said: “Thanks Anita for having released me from this problem and from the risk of a surgery. I have learnt EFT and now I practise it daily for any circumstance and my life has clearly improved.”

Anita Colucci 3 Level EFT & MATRIX REIMPRINTING certified Practitioner
www.eftitaly.it

published in the Rising Sun EFT Group Newsletter, August 2009
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This guest article is by Carna Zacharias-Miller. Carna is one of the most skilled and sensitive EFTers I know when it comes to working with the Inner Child. She and I both value this work very much, as a matter of fact we have a Facebook group called Healing The Inner Child with EFT. If you’re on FB, just search for that and join us! Carna has also developed a wonderful new approach called Magical EFT, which I love. More on Magical EFT soon.

Thanks so much, Carna, for this moving article.

From Carna Zacharias Miller
www.missingmother.com

Hi Betty,

I have been working with lots of inner babies lately, so I wrote this up. Thank you!

HEALING THE INNER BABY WITH EFT

While I am always focused on the young self when I am working on childhood trauma with EFT, I recently realized that I am very much tuned in to the baby self. It is absolutely amazing how alive these inner babies are, how this very early time can influence a whole life, and how EFT can heal a bad start into life in a profound way.
When I inquire about their childhood, clients often start talking about the time when they were toddlers. However, I like to guide them back right to the early stages of their existence. If there was a disconnection from the mother, it almost always started right in the beginning. I call this timeframe “Conception/Pregnancy/Birth”. Of course, there are usually no conscious memories, but there are always powerful emotions – often triggered by the things our parents told us.
Conception issues are not so much sexual (although they can be), but circumstances around that moment in time, like illness of the mother, or absence of the father. In my experience, the two most painful  and far-reaching issues are: “I was not wanted”, and “I was just a girl, they really wanted a boy”. The knowledge or just the inner knowing (parents don’t always tell us directly) of not being wanted always brings up intense emotional pain.

Even though my mother thought of abortion when she was pregnant with me, and that makes me feel devastated in the pit of my stomach…

Even though I was the 6th child that my father forced on my mother, and she just did her catholic duty, and that makes me feel sad and angry…

Being of the “wrong” gender is not really a gender issue. It installs a self-destructive belief system in a girl that often taints her whole life:

Even though I am worthless, and there is nothing I can do about that…
Even though I am never good enough, whatever I do
Even though I was a mistake, I was not supposed to be here, and I still don’t know what I am doing here…

Moving on to pregnancy and birth, we deal with specific shocking experiences, like dangerous health complications, being pulled out with forceps, or left behind in an incubator. Often, the physical and/or emotional separation from the mother happens right after birth. It is always perceived as heartbreaking abandonment by the mother even if there were rational reasons for it (for example, in my own case it was the outbreak of her schizophrenia).

Then we spend loving, caring time with “Baby Anna”, “Baby Molly”, or “Baby Sam” (not real names). That is where the pain, and the hurt, and the desperation, and the anger often come to a peak. Intense loneliness, feeling powerless, hopeless, and a deep yearning for being held and touched are big issues. I believe that it is important to give these babies who were severely emotionally neglected a voice that they did not have when they were actually going through the experience. Once they are allowed to speak their truth through the now adult self, they are ready to be comforted and healed by this adult self.

Sometimes I use a little guided imagery to connect to a specific visual and emotional “snapshot” of the baby, and then we tap on every detail that comes up:

Even though nobody touches Baby Anne, and she feels desperately lonely in her crib, I am treating this baby with kindness and compassion.

Even though nobody even looks at Baby Molly, and nobody picks her up when she is left alone in the bedroom, I give this baby all the love she needs.

Even though Baby Sam’s mother yelled at him in the kitchen when he was hungry and crying, I am healing this baby now.

One session of EFT (not always tearless…) focused on the inner baby can make a big difference. Usually it is not as dramatic as it was with “Kathy”: After just one session spent with her baby self, she felt great, lost the 10 lbs she always wanted to lose, and found the love of her life. However, most clients feel relief when the baby self has been acknowledged in a loving way, and the adult self is ready to support this tender part with love and compassion.

Sometimes, there is a spiritual aspect to this work: Some people have a strong feeling of the radiance, beauty, joy, and unconditional love they experienced before their incarnation. If they find themselves in an environment that is loveless or even hostile, they go through intense, very painful feelings of being trapped in the womb, of fear and regret about coming into the physical world. To lighten up the heavy mood, I sometimes let them tap on: “What was I thinking!”

Ultimately, EFT shapes and illuminates our spiritual quest.

Carna Zacharias-Miller is a certified EFT practitioner in Tallahassee, Florida.

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CARNA ZACHARIAS-MILLER
Certified EFT practitioner
www.missingmother.com
www.magicaleft.com
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I recently received a newsletter from my friend & fellow EFTer Paul Zelizer in which he talked about the great value of supportive relationships. Paul is great at creating connections through social media, etc. As Paul was working on his new website, he already had a web of professional connections so that all the support, skills and help he needed just flowed. This rang a bell for me because of something that we just went through in our family. While my husband and I were still on vacation, our 22-year-old daughter had a car accident. Thank goodness, both she and the other driver were uninjured. But we weren’t there to help her, and it was amazing to see the web of connection that smoothed the way. The mechanic we’ve worked with for years arranged for the towing, etc., “Don’t worry about a thing, I’ll take care of it all.” The insurance we’ve had for years took our daughter under their wing and helped with all the paperwork and a rental car. When it was clear that the car was totaled and a new (used) car had to be found, our mechanic found one for us that day — and my husband knew the owner! Another professional connection. The owner was so supportive — “This happened to my daughter too!” — and even gave us a good deal! Within just a few days, everything was done and all was well.

I’ve thought a lot about how valuable those professional relationships were at that moment. People we’ve done business with for years were really there for us. There was a web of connection and support already in place. It’s the relationships and trust that we build over time that make all the difference.

By the way, Paul’s newsletters are always thoughtful and I get a lot out of them. Find out more at www.paulzelizer.com. I appreciate Paul’s integrity and authenticity and value his work. He has helped me quite a lot with my own business.

formerly published in the Rising Sun EFT Newsletter, July 2009

This personal EFT story of mine is a good example of 1) an inner theater session showing the value of the visual approach and 2) a sensitive inner child session showing that even a baby has the full range of human emotion. What I love the most about this session is the amazing healing image that comes at the end. My subconscious did something my conscious mind never could have figured out, and it completely transformed the issue.

Some weeks ago, I shared that I’ve had issues with sleep most of my life and that EFT had not seemed to touch this. I had started using Jade Barbee’s EFT 3 process before bed and finally something was making a difference. (Jade’s free EFT 3 e-book is available at www.emotionalengine.com -in downloads). I’ve had an intuition for a long time that my sleep difficulties are rooted in infancy. During my first 9 months of life, I had severe colic and cried a great deal, was in pain every time I was fed, and never slept long stretches. So I was tapping for the “baby in pain” with the EFT 3 process — and this was improving my sleep. A clue!

So then I did a full session on this issue, with Jade’s guidance. I wanted to go into the Inner Theater (visual approach) and so I began by imagining my healing place. For me, this is a place in the woods with a pond, some deer and a blue heron. When asked to get in touch with the problem, I found, under the roots of a tree, a treasure chest that held this whole issue. I felt like there was an immense amount of sadness in that chest, so I saw myself holding the chest as we tapped for “this sadness.” I began to get flashes of my mother holding a crying baby and she was crying too. I started to feel my mother’s sadness that, despite her best efforts, she couldn’t relieve this baby’s pain. Many tears as I tuned into her feelings of inadequacy:

“Even though she feels like it must be her fault… she’s not a good enough mother… it’s time to bring some healing to this.”

“this sadness… feeling inadequate… thinking it’s her fault… ”

I’ve heard stories about how my parents held and “bounced” me so much in a certain kitchen chair that they wore out a place on the kitchen floor! In the session, I was overwhelmed with the realization of how hard it all was for them. Hours of rocking and bouncing this crying baby. But they did that rather than leaving her to cry alone. I was moved with how much they had really showed up for me.

“Even though nothing seems to work… and the baby is still crying… it’s not your fault!… you’re doing an amazing job… you’re not leaving her alone… ”

“it’s not your fault… you’re doing an amazing job…”

I felt like I needed to go back in time and give my parents a medal! My baby self too. No one had slept much those first 9 months — it was hard for us all.

As I tuned in to the baby self, I had much emotion come up. I felt like the baby had tried desperately to help her mother feel better. She wanted to be a good baby and make it easier for her mother… but the crying kept getting in the way. Lots of tears and lots of tapping.

“Even though I really want to be a good baby… but the crying is in the way… I hate this crying! but I can’t make it stop… it’s time for healing now…”

I felt a lot of sadness for how much we had both felt like failures and how this had hurt the mother-baby bond.

By now, I was really in touch with the scene from the past and that damn crying that just wouldn’t stop! I said, “I need to get the crying out of the picture. That’s what’s in the way.”

Jade guided me then to give it form, give it an image, as we do in inner theater work. I felt the crying energy swoop over to the side of the scene and become birds, loud squawking birds, a whole flock of them in a tree, deafening. Then as this took further shape, I realized that the birds were all baby birds, a hundred of them in a big nest, with their mouths open, screaming for food. We kept tapping for the image:

“all these baby birds… needing to be fed… open mouths, screaming, squawking…”

Suddenly, I saw all the mother and father birds arriving and they did what many birds do to feed their babies — they brought up partially digested food from their crop. (I have a strong image of this in my mind because I have a lovebird who feeds my fingernails this way!– the fingernails are like baby bird beaks for him and trigger that instinctive response. It’s very sweet.)

This was amazing! Perfectly digestible food had so been what was needed. We tapped:

“Even though the baby birds were crying… now they’re getting perfectly digestible food… that will never make their tummies hurt… they can be fed and it won’t hurt…”

I saw the baby birds all calming down and settling into sleep. All those little round heads nestled together. Suddenly they seemed like the cells of my body, and I knew that this healing was reaching the cellular level.

“Even though nothing worked back then… now there is perfectly digestible food… hunger satisfied, no pain, back to sleep… all the cells of my body receiving this nourishment…”

I was feeling amazing. All the sadness was gone and I felt a tingling all through my body, great relief, as if a huge burden had lifted.

In the inner theater, I then went into the scene to give medals all around! Mother, father and baby all got medals for doing such a good job under such challenging circumstances. In a celebratory mood, I imagined us opening some champagne… and baby even got a sip! As I said, “her system is so healed now, she can digest anything!”

The result of that session has been — sleep! A truly vast improvement in my sleep. I can hardly believe it. When I wake up in the wee hours, I can usually just picture the baby birds getting fed and settling back down… and before I know it, I’m back asleep. This is truly amazing since in the past it could take me hours to get back to sleep and often the 4 am awakening was the end of the night’s sleep for me. I am now getting 7 and 8 hours of sleep on a regular basis for the first time in decades. It feels great!

I’d like to thank Jade Barbee for that amazing session. We’ve developed this Inner Theater work as a collaboration, learning from our session trades. But this time I was totally on the receiving end for life-changing benefits. Being listened to so deeply and guided so sensitively is healing in itself. And my subconscious was given the opportunity to create a profound healing resolution I never could have achieved consciously. I can feel that this is real, deep, and cellular-level. Something has shifted profoundly, as if past and present have healed in a way that allows my system to truly find rest.

I recommend Jade’s phone sessions to anyone who truly wants transformational healing.

Sweet dreams to all!